3 hours ago on 22 Jul, 14 | 31598 notes via aftertheparty - © isodopes

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1. Date a boy who makes you happy, but marry him only if he makes you laugh deep-belly rumbles that hurt your ribs as they expand outwards. Date him when he sees that you’re hurting and he gives you a moment to feel that pain like a handprint spreading across your consciousness, marry him only if he can make you smile even while you’re gross sobbing. The world is not a kind place. You will feel a lot of pain. Make sure you are with someone who makes it all bearable. Humor is an excellent gauge of intelligence. Life gets boring. Find someone who makes the banal interesting.

2. Make sure he has scars on the back of his hands, it’s a good sign he has experience either fighting or making things - creation is an act of selflessness and bruised knuckles are a good sign he knows how to defend himself. You’ve got too much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. If he’s never thrown a punch, let him at least have tasted the insanity of bringing an idea into existence. Rough palms are better than soft ones, they have been salted by this earth and made into leather. Callouses are evidence he has lived, that he has broken skin and been in pain over and over and over again and still came back to the source of it. People rub against each other. Don’t marry him if he can’t handle even a little blister.

3. Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting,see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.

4. Trust your instincts. If he ever makes you feel unsafe, don’t make excuses, just get up and leave. That’s all there is to it. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

5. If he puts money before you, he’ll keep pushing you to the bottom of the pile until you become his last priority. It’s one thing if he can’t afford what you want, it’s another if he has the cash but won’t spring for a box of chicken mcnuggets. Money and love are arch enemies. 62% of divorces occur due to economic strain. Make sure keeping you is more important than his 401k.

6. How a man treats animals is a good indicator of how he treats children. If you see him raise a hand to a dog, pack your things into a little black bag. Animals at their worst are only half as annoying as a toddler on their best behaviour. Your kids will be beautiful, but they will also misbehave. Same goes for waiters and hotel maids - if he’s rude to those who are working for minimum wage, it says a lot about how he sees himself. Patience is rare and so important. If he’s not forgiving to a dog, he’s not good for your kids.

7. If he isn’t in awe of you, he doesn’t deserve you. You are my little girl and you were born perfect. If he can’t see that, it’s his loss. There is someone who thinks your flaws power his heart. Be strong. If he asks you to change, be like like rock of your birthstone, do not waver. You are wondrous just the way that you are.

"  - My father’s recipe for the man I should marry (part 1/2 of a series). /// r.i.d 




1 day ago on 20 Jul, 14 | 79044 notes via mayahoelivia - © foxwin


3 days ago on 19 Jul, 14 | 4862 notes via taeunf

sea-hag:


“My relationship with my mom is really the single most profound relationship that I’ve ever had in my life,” she tells me. “By the way, it seems like I’m … I’m just blowing my nose. It’s not because I’m sad.” She has allergies and a cold, she promises. But her voice breaks when she starts talking about how she sat down with a pen and paper and asked her mother to give her all the advice she could possibly give her before she died, and Kaling realized she’d never be able to ask her mother for advice again. “I said to her, ‘Mom, I’m going to be so lonely without you.’” She’s crying now but keeps going. “And she just said, ‘You have to be your own best friend. If you always remember that, you will always have someone there with you.’”

The New New Girl: Mindy Kaling Promotes Herself Out of The Office and Into The Mindy Project

sea-hag:

“My relationship with my mom is really the single most profound relationship that I’ve ever had in my life,” she tells me. “By the way, it seems like I’m … I’m just blowing my nose. It’s not because I’m sad.” She has allergies and a cold, she promises. But her voice breaks when she starts talking about how she sat down with a pen and paper and asked her mother to give her all the advice she could possibly give her before she died, and Kaling realized she’d never be able to ask her mother for advice again. “I said to her, ‘Mom, I’m going to be so lonely without you.’” She’s crying now but keeps going. “And she just said, ‘You have to be your own best friend. If you always remember that, you will always have someone there with you.’”

The New New Girl: Mindy Kaling Promotes Herself Out of The Office and Into The Mindy Project


3 days ago on 19 Jul, 14 | 6083 notes via teaforyourginaa - © sea-hag

aseaofquotes:

Sandra Cisneros, “Eleven”

aseaofquotes:

Sandra Cisneros, “Eleven”


4 days ago on 18 Jul, 14 | 573920 notes via lil-reina - © aseaofquotes

whododatlikedat:

"But yeah, me and Danielle, I feel like she’s gonna be my friend for life." (x)

whododatlikedat:

"But yeah, me and Danielle, I feel like she’s gonna be my friend for life." (x)


6 days ago on 15 Jul, 14 | 55307 notes via scarsntats - © flare.com

itsthelesbiana:

Nothing scars you more than the negative shit your own parents tell you.


1 week ago on 13 Jul, 14 | 114707 notes via zipitupandzipitout - © itsthelesbiana
tagged as: #truly

  • house hunters: which home will jessica choose? #1, the stylish and modern studio in a bad location? #2, the roomy but outdated 2-bedroom? or #3, the fixer-upper with the walk in closet she's always wanted?
  • me: 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1
  • jessica: after a while of thinking, i finally decided on 3
  • me: there's no god we're alone in the universe we are only the sum of our parts we are nothing life is meaningless

1 week ago on 12 Jul, 14 | 3374 notes via halaalpussy - © todallison

markusbones:

If you look at the world and say “Yes, there are enough homes for people, yes, there is enough food for people, but if we give it away for free they won’t have earned it and the economy will collapse.” Then you have chosen money (a constructed medium of exchange) over living beings who only want to continue living in peace and safety.

And I have no qualms telling you, that is the wrong choice, and you have been brainwashed by this destructive, exploitative system.